The answer this single girl received may not have been what she expected, but it might be the most honest thing ever said regarding relationships.
This girl may be lonely or simply ready to find her true lover, but the response this guy left below should never be forgotten.
If more words like this were said, the world might actually be a better place.
“Tiffany, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “find him”.
If you start chasing a man, you’re going to be chasing him the rest of your life!
What you need to know, deep inside your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection, loss or ego—is that you are worthy of being pursued.
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a guy who is both capable of pursuing and who wants to spend the rest of his life pursuing you. This is the guy you will want to be lifetime friends with.
So instead of pursuing guys; be someone that guys will want to pursue. If you want him to pursue you for the rest of your life; invest in things that last your entire life and not things that will be gone by the time you turn 35.
A real guy is looking for someone that will change his life and not just his relationship status.
- A girl that he can trust to stand by his side through thick and thin.
- A girl that knows what it means to cherish, love, and value what is true.
- A girl that is honest to herself and to others.
- A girl that is thoughtful, caring and respectful.
By now you’re probably wondering how your ever supposed to meet a guy if you’re not out there pursuing. You could probably tell me how guy’s just aren’t stepping up any-more and how things just don’t work the way they used too.. I would like to suggest to you that if you have these core values figured out, aren’t living in grandmas attic and know how to be warm and approachable, you won’t go un-noticed by us guys; granted there are plenty of us who will ignore you and plenty more that will ridicule you for your choices, but if your not placing your value and self worth on what we think of you, you’ll be able to shrug your shoulders with confidence knowing that you are someone worthy of being pursued by the right guy!
Lastly, it’s likely that I’m completely reading into your question and that your only looking for friends and not someone to be your boyfriend; if this is the case then don’t forget.. There are no “Just Friends”.. We are created to be attracted to each-other and the thought of being “more than friends” is the thought that crosses every guys head. “
It’s time for us to up our game, raise our standards, and set our expectations higher! It’s time to quit comparing ourselves with others and enjoy the life we have. We are the authors of our future. It’s time for us to be the change of positivity that this world needs! If someone needs to hear this, share below.